Say Hello To Goodbye

Please lie to me. Lie and say you've never had to let go of something or better yet someone you'd rather keep with you. If going down that lane you find yourself hitting the brakes every now and then because it still takes away a part of you within, oh well, then cry me a river.

Sometimes you do wrong and you lose someone who means a lot and there's no way of getting them back, you know you have scarred them for life, and you have no one else to blame but you, the only thing left to do is watch them go. Your presence may serve as a reminder of the pain you caused them. And as for you, well, you are in pain too. But it's your fault. So deal with it.

At other times you're a victim and find yourself at the wrong side of a love song. You think you've got it all figured out. Only to be left in the midst of confusion trying to find your way out of a tangled web of a messy love affair. If you leave someone in that situation, here's something you gotta do. Same way you said hello, go and say goodbye.

You don't just pack up and leave without a word. Pelo ea motho ha se 'mantloane for God's sake! When you do that, you only harden the process of letting go for the other person. Sit them down, tell them the truth because lies can only make it worse. Leaving without a word, you leave them with not only the burden of a heavy heart over losing you but also the back-breaking work of finding why you left. You want them to leave you alone, fine, tell them the truth.

It's happened to me more times than I can count and frankly, I don't care to remember. Both ways actually. I left some without a word and one left me without a word. That sucks. But being where I am today, I can assure the victims out there that it's going to hurt...there are times when you'll feel like it's going to take forever, especially if you want it to go away overnight. But eventually, you're going to be fine. Trust me. One day you'll wake up, and it won't be as hard. Hell, you'll even laugh it off.

There's no need to keep hoping they'll be back. The best you can do for yourself is do your best to move on because trust me, they ain't thinking of you and they probably moved on even before officially leaving you. You just weren't in the know.

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Ink On Skin

In my opinion, tattoos are an aphrodisiac...like oyster is rumored to be. Oh well, #rollseyes, I wouldn't know. They simply turn me on. Tattoos tattoos tattoos! It looks like everybody out there is getting one, or two. Or three. Ok, let's make that A LOT of tattoos.

So apparently every tattoo is not just ink. It carries a certain meaning. And ignorant people out there are bound to be judged by their ink simply because they don't know it's meaning. Oh yes I do have a tattoo. A galaxy of 15cm in length. I don't know how people interpret star tats out there and frankly it doesn't matter. I know what it means to me. Hint: my daughter's name is Naleli.

I've been given all sorts of stares since I got it. Some impressed, some curious, some absolutely judgey! And I wonder, what gives anyone any right to judge anybody in this "flawless" world? Please! So as is my habit, I interviewed you my friends. And let's see what you think about tattoos.

Reatile*
"Lol...I love them. They represent the beauty of art. And yes I'd get one."

Lindiwe*
"Scared of they. They are forever. And I'm at a stage where I'm scared of the word forever."

Ron*
"I don't mind them so long as they don't portray evil or wrongdoing, perfectly fine."

Nthaby*
"I don't mind tattoos as long as they aren't all over the body. They are scary when they are like that."

Sammy*
"I love them madly and I would get one"

Ben*
"Tattoos are not ayoba. They are for life. And more, they are a means of communication. There's more to them than what meets the eye. They are more of a personal choice of statement."

Kealeboha*
"I don't like them. I'm a Mosotho sweetie. They call for attention. Like "hey! Look at me!"

Kelumetse*
"There was a time I wanted one but couldn't choose. It's too permanent for me but I understand anyone who has one. And I dated someone who has tattoos and was obsessed with them."

Thandie*
"I love them and I want one. But I also think they are Illuminati.

Lineo*
"I looooove tattoos. They are a form of expression and I want four of them!"

Anna*
"My only problem is that they are permanent. Even though I don't think I'd get one, I'd date a guy who has them. It's his body. Not mine."

Lintle*
"I don't have a problem with them. They are good if you get them done properly. Not too many of them though. One or two."

Rethabile*
"I love them! I have tattoos. Lots of them!"

Zandile*
"I like them and I'd get one but hide it from my parents because like most people, they think they are satanic."

Deezy*
"I love them. I want three butterflies for my mom, my dad and my son."

Sam*
"I love them and I'm going to get one. But one with meaning. Something about my mom."

Bongani*
"I really don't find them attractive and I see them as too much commitment since I haven't heard of an easy way to remove them should one fall out of love with them."

Mohale*
"I'm not into them. My woman has one but I have no problem with that."

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At One Point in Your Life

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Game Of Hearts

"No I can't." She said as she advanced a step away from him. How she moved puzzled her because she new she wanted to stay. She felt her heart beat with the strength of thunder. She was shaking. And she felt compelled to move back towards him. Guided by an invisible vicious force. There was no turning back now...she was bound to him. And 'him'.

She had no idea how tangled the web she was weaving was, until that moment. And only then did she realise its superiority complex. But it was too late. It wasn't harmless fun anymore. And she was forced to choose between the two men...and the one she was in the presence of now, was not the one she wanted to love.

Frankly, even though she'd always known he wanted more than just fun, what hit her as a surprise was she was falling for him. What about her boyfriend? She loved him as much but we all know that the new love cuts deep, no matter how tight the old love has you bound.

As she walked towards him, she said no word, she buried her head in his chest and he held her as she felt her heart open up to new possibilities. Then she looked up at him with terrified eyes...and to her surprise, he was laughing...then he said,

"It's just a game"







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Discipline From God's Point of View _ Pastor Wilson

-Start living a live that has Jesus in the centre so it doesn't spiral out of control.
-Bring discipline into your life. Undisciplined life results in failure.
-Be focused and keep going regardless of the hurdles you encounter.

1 Corinthians 9:24-27

-winning comes from preparation.
-preparation and discipline are not pretty, they are messy because you yearn to do something else more appealing.
-you'll only do as great as your time of preparation.
-your lack of discipline will manifest itself in your failure.
-conquer your instinct to opt for shortcuts.
-lack of discipline results in ineffectiveness.
-discipline matters more than speed.

*tale of the rabbit and the turtle

-to win, compete against yourself because you're striving towards your own goals.


Matthew 7:24-27

-be ready for hard times.
-be prepared for stormy seasons.

-Instill yourself to observing what God said and make time to do it.

Proverbs 23:6-8

Matthew 6:19-24

-you can not serve God and money/two masters at the same time.
-when you're generous, you receive more.
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Land Of The Flawless...

love is not complicated. but if you start looking at all the small things that dont really matter, you provide a foundation for complication. let your partner be who they are and if you can not accept the things that matter to them, why are you in their lives?

if to give them something you know they really want you have to ask them for something in return, thats not love. you simply want to mould them into your own selfish version of what you think someone to love should be.e.g, "baby i'll introduce you to my mom if you lose weight." seriously?

i spent a lot of time with one friend not long ago and as we had our girl talk (call it gossip if you may), we notised that most men are down right scared of commitment. and even when they are blessed with women who are independent and clear about what they want, these men still find something to "change" about these women.

In the meanwhile, we as women, are quick to learn to accept all the flaws our men come with. we don't go around asking you to change certain things and trust me, that does not mean you are perfect. and no matter how hard you try to sugar-coat that speech, we dont like to know that you think we are imperfect and are not happy about it.

We chose to be with you among all the men out there. it was a choice. a decision of our own so don't ever make it look like you're doing us some sort of a favour. Respect us. And always know that you are not the only one who wants us. You gotta work to get us and to keep us as well...

As for you women...#smh
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It's Friday. And it's night. Some of us are stuck indoors. We are already in bed and I know most of you guys are out having a blast.

Happy Drinking!!!!!
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Sleeping With The Enemy

You see them with someone new and your stomach churns and you sweat and your heartbeat races and it takes you moments before you actually calm down.

They call you and even though you promised yourself you'd never take their calls you find yourself pressing the green button and blushing your way through the call.

They say they coming over/ vice-versa, and you just drop whatever you're doing and start looking your best. Even though you practice in front of the mirror all the things you really want to say to them, you go numb around them.

Then comes the million dollar question: Would you f*ck your ex? Why? I found answers from real life people. Here's what they had to day:

Zandie*
"No, I wouldn't. He's my past and that's it. Doing that would make him disrespect me and think that I'm not over him or that I'm not happy where I am."

Moeketsi*
"No. Not at all. I can't sleep with my ex because I don't want trouble. My problem is I don't make sex casual, I have sex only with people I love. And I'm the one who ended all my past relationships, once I leave, I don't go back. I keep my distance once it's over."

Dan*
"I would if I'm not involved with anyone. Because I never date anyone I don't REALY like. So I guess it's safe to say a relationship is a life-long thing for me."

Simon*
"Lol, hell yeah! I have two reasons.
1.Because we might have broken up before I could have sex with her. Or
2.Because I simply just can't get enough of her even though she's an ex."

Relebohile*
"Yes I would. I'd just have sex. Not date. Hardcore porn type of sex just to keep things interesting.

Quinn*
"Yes I would. Depending on how things ended and how our sex life was. Seriously, you can miss your ex, regardless of how happy you are in your current relationship."

Maipato*
"Some I would. The ones whom I always wanted to bed but couldn't and said no to because I wasn't ready."

Mj*
"Nope, I wouldn't. Some things you just have to let go and yeah, even though I do sometimes lust after my ex, I wouldn't have sex with her. What we had is over and as a man, I can't be dwelling in the past."

NB. If you have something you'd like me to write about, don't hesitate to let me know on liyahdubraxy@gmail.com.

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Deeper Shades Of L'amour

Taking your clothes off in front of someone is pretty easy thing to do. It don't matter where you start. From shirt, to skirt, to lingerie and finally to heels. It's that easy. But giving all your heart to someone, when your heart's been opened up to feelings that you never knew, now that, that's just damn hard.

Letting someone into you so much that even their breath moves you, showing them all the cards....living purely for their happiness, letting them see the depths of your very soul, now that's what I call naked.

*L'amour _ love


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Oh Daddy, Where Art Thou?!

Each one of us has a father. That one, strong pillar and protector of your world. The one wall that always remains standing after a storm that brings your entire world grumbling down around you. You know you can always count on him. It's a maternal instinct for a father to be protective.

This post however, is for those people out there who have no father figures in their lives. Some have never met them and they have amazing single moms. Some have and lost them(may their souls rest in peace). Some just don't get along with theirs.

If you have never met your father, don't despair. Look around you. Surely there is a father figure in your life. May be an Uncle or a family friend. That one man who is always there when you need him. If you have lost yours, this day may be a reminder of what you don't have. But why not count your blessings and be grateful for the men who play that part in your life daily? And if you don't get along with yours, maybe because he denied you the love you so dearly deserved by renouncing you even before you were born, well, that's his loss.

And if you have tried all to reconcile with him and failed, at least you tried. If you haven't, why not? Learn to forgive their mistakes no matter how vile, because a forgiving heart is the most peaceful.

And for all men who know they have kids out there and just won't be men enough to take responsibility, shame on you. You grew up with a father and you're denying your child the same privilege you had. And if you never had a father, you surely know how hard it's been for you, so why want the same for your own child?

Happy Father's Day
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It's CASUAL

Let's talk sex. Yes. I said it. S-E-X. Sex. This is from a woman's point of view. We are also capable of "having sex" and not just making love. We know what "no strings attached" means and yes, we can get out of bed before you even get a chance to catch a breath after the deed.

Women are not naïve anymore. We are not stuck in the 19th century and throughout the years, we have come to learn so much from our counterparts. We get played so hard that eventually,we learn how to play the game as well. A woman who has been terribly hurt by physical pleasures because she attached emotional tags in the past now knows how to draw the line between sex and making love. It's a very thin line and only experts are capable of knowing which is which.

When you meet this type of woman, be careful player, she might just beat you at your own game with your own rules. Don't underestimate her. And the problem is when a self-proclaimed player meets this type, he falls for her. #sad. I've seen it happen a lot. And yet when the girls falls for him, he runs faster than Makoanyane(if you a Mosotho you know who this is). Reminds me of a line in Space Bound by Eminem: "You want them when they don't want you, soon as they do feelings change".

While casual sex may be mutually satisfying, we all know eventually if the sex is good, it's inevitable that emotions will find their way through and demolish all your perfect little world of fantasies. What then? You both run?

Believe me when I tell you this, nothing(seriously) beats the overwhelming feeling of sharing yourself with the one person you love. The one person who loves you back. Maybe someday you should try it. Soon.


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Down Memory Lane

So by chance I found myself at Nts'ekhe Hospital in Mohale's Hoek. Walking through the female ward B. I should have just stayed behind and let Lera go. But I kept walking. And I thought I'd be fine. But passing the door of the very same room and seeing the same bed my mother died in 8 years ago, I realised I almost cried.

It still hurt. And I still miss my mother. May her soul rest in peace.
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Are Looks Important?

To all you men and women out there who think looks are everything, where the hell you from? Like seriously! How ridiculous must you be to judge a book by it's cover? (Technically I do that, oh well, to literal books that ain't by Sidney Sheldon). But now I'm talking humans!

There are men and women out there who are not blessed with good looks but internally are absolutely amazing people who don't deserve to be judged in just one look. There's always more to a person than meets the eye.

I'll be the first to admit I've almost never dated an unpleasant looking guy but that was absolutely a long time ago and like a naïve girl, looks were everything! But now, I'm sure I have much more important aspects of what constitutes a person to consider when choosing a partner.

1. The brains
Oh hell yeah, nothing turns me on more than an intelligent man who can keep the conversation going and mentally challenging me while he's at it.

2. Personality
Catch up with me. Understand my jokes and make me laugh! Finish my sentences. Have that attitude that can easily be adjusted to suit any situation.

3. Confidence
We all want someone with this, don't we? I know women like me just totally catch men off-guard with our sharp tongues and always without hesitation stating facts even when we already know they won't like hearing them. But a man who can take criticism and match a woman's attitude without a stutter and without taking offence is for keeps.

Let's stick to just those for now. And yes, I absolutely do have a man in my life. He has definitely all of the things I want in a man and the fact that he's hot is just a bonus...
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Day-Dreaming

Kabelo* knew that at some point, she would have to stop running and let him catch her. She'd never been the type to play hide and seek, hard-to-get, you call it what you want. And in this case, she wasn't. She was just plain scared.
Scared of everything about him. His age mostly perhaps. And even though she'd been alone for at least 4months, giving in seemed impossibly reckless.

She saw him as a symbol of danger, something that turned her on whenever he randomly sprang into her thoughts without permission. The fact that he was older troubled her the worst. How could he be single? And with every achievement under his belt, what could he be waiting for? His smile, his light complexion, those eyes that had taken every inch of her with bare desire...

All this day-dreaming about a man she's met just once was maybe a symbol of her early insanity....


*not her real name

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Day-Dreaming

She was in love and scared to admit it. Would it really hurt to just give in to what she "secretly" desired?

Kabelo* knew that at some point, she would have to stop running and let him catch her. She'd never been the type to play hide and seek, hard-to-get, you call it what you want. And in this case, she wasn't. She was just plain scared.
Scared of everything about him. His age mostly perhaps. And even though she'd been alone for at least 4months, giving in seemed impossibly reckless.

She saw him as a symbol of danger, something that turned her on whenever he randomly sprang into her thoughts without permission. The fact that he was older troubled her the worst. How could he be single? And with every achievement under his belt, what could he be waiting for? His smile, his light complexion, those eyes that had taken every inch of her with bare desire...

All this day-dreaming about a man she's met just once was maybe a symbol of her early insanity....


*not her real name

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What Men Think of Baby Mamas

So I interviewed a few of the male friends I have to get their views on what they think of single women who have kids. And this is what they had to say.

MJR*
 "yes I have a problem with woman who have kids outside marriage since that won't affect her but in the long run will affect the kid, sometimes kids need a father figure in the life. But again I have accepted the fact that most of the women this days prefer to have kids outside marriage and still take care of them, because they believe all man are the same.
I personally hate that, but if it so happens that I'm inlove with a woman who have a kid, I will have to love the kid like she's my own."

R*
"It depends on the lady,u get beautiful women who have kids or a kid and they're cool and very hot so its not really an issue with me really and you're one of those ladies"

Mohale*
"I don't judge them I knw one can hv a kid not bn plnin like I nw my gf has a kid nd to me its not a big deal. All I don't like is a woman who has morethn one kid from deffrnt men that I don't like"

Thabiso*
"I dnt have a view. They have their reasons. Nna I'm nt like norml peopl I dnt care bout a lot. I'm chilled if womn got kids. Sure some wnt to have kids so ache wht m I bitchn bout"

Leqele*
"Personally, I wouldn't advice it. Life is hard enough for parents, adding another baby for them to raise is unfair. That's just what I think. Having a kid you can't afford. Or having a kid while you're not married. as for dating her, I don't mind. The baby is not my responsibility so it wouldn't be a problem. I would really have to be into her for days in order to take the kid as my own."

Damane*
"I try by all meanz 2 understand sum1 elsez situation. I mean nowadayz evry1 doez da act of makin a kid, so sum people actualy make da kid. So wat da f... Da kid is der n da kid iz a belessin. So wit me if I realy luv her, I wud marry a woman wit 10 kidz."

Bohlale*
"Honestly I wouldn't if ke tsibile before I go propose...And ha ke tseba when we r already dating, it'll take me so much guts to try n be honest with her that we can't continue... often times the pressure might come from parents due to cultural norms especially when a mosotho guy wants to have that lady's hand in marriage."

Sam*
"Hae nna kobane I dnt hv any problem wit em..I blv every1 dsrvs a chnce. Yeah,I mean we'v probbly evn made kids We dnt knw abwt out er,us guys I mean"

So ladies, there you have it.
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Why can't I sent images?
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To whom it may concernl

U're like the stars on my back. u'll always be with me. In life and in death. I'll take you with me to my grave...
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