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So this morning I had a talk with one particular woman. She seems to be in trouble. And her troublesome situation is without doubt one that millions of women face around the globe. I've been there before as well. I can relate.

Men. Good Lord! They go on and on about how complicated women are but somehow they forget about the guy in the mirror. I'll tell you a fact. To a woman, t's totally adorable when a man loves his family and respects his mom...but,(oh yes there's always a catch) there's nothing as disturbing as a guy who goes on and on about his mom. His sister. His lil brother. Telling us how important they are to you and how much you care about them and how you would die for them is TOO MUCH.

We are not stupid. And naturally, we get that you are bound to care for your family. That's the God-assigned job for you as a man. But if you bring the "importance" of your family in every conversation you have with your woman, all you're doing is making her feel that she's not a part of it. Like she's an outsider looking in. Like she doesn't fit in in your life. She'll feel unimportant to the person she holds dear in her heart.

Those are not the feelings you want to drag "the person you love" through. They are brutal and corrosive and damaging to a woman's self-esteem. We want to know that we too, are important to you and that you would die for us. We need to feel so. Forget gender equality, we are a jealous species and if you make us feel like we're competing with someone, it will get ugly. Even if it's your mother. Especially your mother. Let alone your pretty cousins.

For a while I thought it would get better. But it didn't. Then I realised, the best way was the way out. So I walked. And felt better about myself and self-esteem sky-rocketted. It's simple really, women also have families. Some of us are the bread-winners. And we love ours just as you do yours. But we do not find it necessary to throw it in your face at any given moment. Because we want you as our men to know that we need you just as much in our lives. If not more.

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Epiphany

Love is not a choice. It's command. A voice you unwillingly listen to. A driving force within that will lead you to a land where you'll get lost, hurt, tortured, shaken, bent and broken and at the end of it all, you stand tall and say you're in love. With the very same person who pushes you to your limits. The person who turns your world upside down. The person who single-handedly has the power to ruin you....because you still find comfort in their arms. You still see your future in their eyes. And you find love in just the thought of knowing they are there.

That's love.
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Stranger Tides

......then I stepped out of my comfort zone. Musically. Somehow it is paying off and I can't believe people's reaction to the song. I am grateful however. And for those who found something wrong with the track, thanks for your opinions and keep your views coming for it's only through your constructive criticism that I'll grow.

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Together We Made It

You were a spark that slowly lit the flame. Steadily, it matured into a bonfire that kept growing and eventually snowballed into a blaze.

I recall our first encounter. Pioneer Mall and you were conversing with an acquaintance of mine. The random exchange of words ended up with me telling you that I'm a lesbian.

So you took her out. Her and her friends. See, my acquaintance didn't see it coming. Neither did I. You with your friends. Me with the acquaintance and a friend. And then your Paco Rabanne caught my nose.

Fast-forward, a year later, we still are. We've done it all. And it's with you I've learned to see life as beautiful. I've seen very breath-taking places with you and our unparalleled appreciation for nature has been a factor that made our travels worthwhile. There's still more places we're going to.

Then at some point I thought we were broken. But no, we were just bent. Took some work and dedication to get us back in shape again. Your patience inspires me to be the best I can be. Honestly, I don't know how you do it. I'm impossible. But because you never give up on me, I know you're for keeps.

I love you. I hope you know that. And even though right now we're waiting in the calm before the storm, this too, shall pass.


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Losing Friends

This doesn't in any way under the sun compare to losing a lover. Because it's never going to be the same. And nothing prepares you for it. It's like running in an open road and then BAM! Out of nowhere, you hit a brick wall. you don't see it coming.

Friends are people you call for any occasion. You wanna go out clubbing? Friends. You wanna go shopping? Friends. You wanna go just mess with people?(Like what me and someone did in Vegas) Friends. And even if you have that someone special in your life, friends are a necessity.

Friends know so much about you! Even those imperfections and bits you'd rather keep from your woman, or man. They've been in your life longer than your partner and it's only natural that they know more. So when they leave....sigh....when they leave you and suddenly become strangers, imagine the pain.

Now they hang with other people at your favourite spots and with them they take away your secrets and one word to the wrong people could destroy you. What do you do?

On the 20th, it was the birthday of one such friend, the lost one. I don't know what happened, things just went left...and being estranged from her hurts. But what can I do, she seems happy. At least I hope she is. For over 20 years we were inseparable, then she got married. Then things changed.

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Below The Surface

On a constant basis, I'm tempted to post exactly what's on my mind. In my heart. But my first thought is "What the hell?" I couldn't possibly. I want that. To just let it all out. Who knows, maybe everything would fall into place. Maybe I'd finally find some clarity. But as usual, I find it best to be the only to know what's in my heart.

I'm an official talkative. That I know. But it always takes more than an effort to talk from the soul. To dig out what's within. Below the surface. To air dirty laundry. I can go on all day talking about "nothing". And in all that, I never forget to wear my armour.

And lately, with everything that's been happening, having important decisions to make, I feel different. I feel grown. I feel I'm ready to conquer my deepest fears. Love has been kind and confusing and downright ridiculous. And in all the emotions it has put me, all that matters is knowing that it exists.

So yes, I'm embracing it. Wholeheartedly. I'll breath it in and not exhale. Until I'm about to burst. I don't have to run. I can just bask in its glory and let it rain on my parade. Yes, I'm in love and have been...for sometime now. And I couldn't be any happier.
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