Metro

I have friends and acquaintances who personally wouldn't date a guy who minds his looks. All they say is "As long as he's clean, that's all that matters." Hahaha. I can't see not one thing wrong with guys who actually go an extra mile for their looks.

I'd find it awesome if I opened his toilet-bag and found Nivea-for-Men products. Not just Nivea, other brands too. Even Pond's is an awesome brand. Not that man that goes, "No, I'm a man and real men don't do that homo stuff." Like seriously! As your women, we go extra miles to look good. True, you never asked us to but would you like 'Matjale for a girlfriend? No.

So would it really be impossible for you to care about your looks? And no, I'm not saying you should be looking in a mirror every two seconds. That, would be worrying. Smelling like Paco, Gucci or whatever you guys use, it's such a turn on for us. And yes your face matters as well. Taba Li Mahlong anyway. Personal hygiene is a great deal to you. So is it to us. I don't care hore na u Lepantsula or le Hippie or Lejamane.

Long as you take your time to look your best, your lifestyle ain't got to be your excuse. You smoke weed, fine! Just don't come to me all reeking of it. Same goes for cigarettes. All we want is a man who cares for his appearance. Same as you men. Ain't nothing wrong with MetroSexuals and if you think there is, you are a homophobic living thing.

Go metro and watch your woman love you more. Yes, it's a proven technique.

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Family Guy

So this morning I had a talk with one particular woman. She seems to be in trouble. And her troublesome situation is without doubt one that millions of women face around the globe. I've been there before as well. I can relate.

Men. Good Lord! They go on and on about how complicated women are but somehow they forget about the guy in the mirror. I'll tell you a fact. To a woman, t's totally adorable when a man loves his family and respects his mom...but,(oh yes there's always a catch) there's nothing as disturbing as a guy who goes on and on about his mom. His sister. His lil brother. Telling us how important they are to you and how much you care about them and how you would die for them is TOO MUCH.

We are not stupid. And naturally, we get that you are bound to care for your family. That's the God-assigned job for you as a man. But if you bring the "importance" of your family in every conversation you have with your woman, all you're doing is making her feel that she's not a part of it. Like she's an outsider looking in. Like she doesn't fit in in your life. She'll feel unimportant to the person she holds dear in her heart.

Those are not the feelings you want to drag "the person you love" through. They are brutal and corrosive and damaging to a woman's self-esteem. We want to know that we too, are important to you and that you would die for us. We need to feel so. Forget gender equality, we are a jealous species and if you make us feel like we're competing with someone, it will get ugly. Even if it's your mother. Especially your mother. Let alone your pretty cousins.

For a while I thought it would get better. But it didn't. Then I realised, the best way was the way out. So I walked. And felt better about myself and self-esteem sky-rocketted. It's simple really, women also have families. Some of us are the bread-winners. And we love ours just as you do yours. But we do not find it necessary to throw it in your face at any given moment. Because we want you as our men to know that we need you just as much in our lives. If not more.

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Epiphany

Love is not a choice. It's command. A voice you unwillingly listen to. A driving force within that will lead you to a land where you'll get lost, hurt, tortured, shaken, bent and broken and at the end of it all, you stand tall and say you're in love. With the very same person who pushes you to your limits. The person who turns your world upside down. The person who single-handedly has the power to ruin you....because you still find comfort in their arms. You still see your future in their eyes. And you find love in just the thought of knowing they are there.

That's love.
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Stranger Tides

......then I stepped out of my comfort zone. Musically. Somehow it is paying off and I can't believe people's reaction to the song. I am grateful however. And for those who found something wrong with the track, thanks for your opinions and keep your views coming for it's only through your constructive criticism that I'll grow.

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Together We Made It

You were a spark that slowly lit the flame. Steadily, it matured into a bonfire that kept growing and eventually snowballed into a blaze.

I recall our first encounter. Pioneer Mall and you were conversing with an acquaintance of mine. The random exchange of words ended up with me telling you that I'm a lesbian.

So you took her out. Her and her friends. See, my acquaintance didn't see it coming. Neither did I. You with your friends. Me with the acquaintance and a friend. And then your Paco Rabanne caught my nose.

Fast-forward, a year later, we still are. We've done it all. And it's with you I've learned to see life as beautiful. I've seen very breath-taking places with you and our unparalleled appreciation for nature has been a factor that made our travels worthwhile. There's still more places we're going to.

Then at some point I thought we were broken. But no, we were just bent. Took some work and dedication to get us back in shape again. Your patience inspires me to be the best I can be. Honestly, I don't know how you do it. I'm impossible. But because you never give up on me, I know you're for keeps.

I love you. I hope you know that. And even though right now we're waiting in the calm before the storm, this too, shall pass.


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Losing Friends

This doesn't in any way under the sun compare to losing a lover. Because it's never going to be the same. And nothing prepares you for it. It's like running in an open road and then BAM! Out of nowhere, you hit a brick wall. you don't see it coming.

Friends are people you call for any occasion. You wanna go out clubbing? Friends. You wanna go shopping? Friends. You wanna go just mess with people?(Like what me and someone did in Vegas) Friends. And even if you have that someone special in your life, friends are a necessity.

Friends know so much about you! Even those imperfections and bits you'd rather keep from your woman, or man. They've been in your life longer than your partner and it's only natural that they know more. So when they leave....sigh....when they leave you and suddenly become strangers, imagine the pain.

Now they hang with other people at your favourite spots and with them they take away your secrets and one word to the wrong people could destroy you. What do you do?

On the 20th, it was the birthday of one such friend, the lost one. I don't know what happened, things just went left...and being estranged from her hurts. But what can I do, she seems happy. At least I hope she is. For over 20 years we were inseparable, then she got married. Then things changed.

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