Metro

I have friends and acquaintances who personally wouldn't date a guy who minds his looks. All they say is "As long as he's clean, that's all that matters." Hahaha. I can't see not one thing wrong with guys who actually go an extra mile for their looks.

I'd find it awesome if I opened his toilet-bag and found Nivea-for-Men products. Not just Nivea, other brands too. Even Pond's is an awesome brand. Not that man that goes, "No, I'm a man and real men don't do that homo stuff." Like seriously! As your women, we go extra miles to look good. True, you never asked us to but would you like 'Matjale for a girlfriend? No.

So would it really be impossible for you to care about your looks? And no, I'm not saying you should be looking in a mirror every two seconds. That, would be worrying. Smelling like Paco, Gucci or whatever you guys use, it's such a turn on for us. And yes your face matters as well. Taba Li Mahlong anyway. Personal hygiene is a great deal to you. So is it to us. I don't care hore na u Lepantsula or le Hippie or Lejamane.

Long as you take your time to look your best, your lifestyle ain't got to be your excuse. You smoke weed, fine! Just don't come to me all reeking of it. Same goes for cigarettes. All we want is a man who cares for his appearance. Same as you men. Ain't nothing wrong with MetroSexuals and if you think there is, you are a homophobic living thing.

Go metro and watch your woman love you more. Yes, it's a proven technique.

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Family Guy

So this morning I had a talk with one particular woman. She seems to be in trouble. And her troublesome situation is without doubt one that millions of women face around the globe. I've been there before as well. I can relate.

Men. Good Lord! They go on and on about how complicated women are but somehow they forget about the guy in the mirror. I'll tell you a fact. To a woman, t's totally adorable when a man loves his family and respects his mom...but,(oh yes there's always a catch) there's nothing as disturbing as a guy who goes on and on about his mom. His sister. His lil brother. Telling us how important they are to you and how much you care about them and how you would die for them is TOO MUCH.

We are not stupid. And naturally, we get that you are bound to care for your family. That's the God-assigned job for you as a man. But if you bring the "importance" of your family in every conversation you have with your woman, all you're doing is making her feel that she's not a part of it. Like she's an outsider looking in. Like she doesn't fit in in your life. She'll feel unimportant to the person she holds dear in her heart.

Those are not the feelings you want to drag "the person you love" through. They are brutal and corrosive and damaging to a woman's self-esteem. We want to know that we too, are important to you and that you would die for us. We need to feel so. Forget gender equality, we are a jealous species and if you make us feel like we're competing with someone, it will get ugly. Even if it's your mother. Especially your mother. Let alone your pretty cousins.

For a while I thought it would get better. But it didn't. Then I realised, the best way was the way out. So I walked. And felt better about myself and self-esteem sky-rocketted. It's simple really, women also have families. Some of us are the bread-winners. And we love ours just as you do yours. But we do not find it necessary to throw it in your face at any given moment. Because we want you as our men to know that we need you just as much in our lives. If not more.

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