Men. Good Lord! They go on and on about how complicated women are but somehow they forget about the guy in the mirror. I'll tell you a fact. To a woman, t's totally adorable when a man loves his family and respects his mom...but,(oh yes there's always a catch) there's nothing as disturbing as a guy who goes on and on about his mom. His sister. His lil brother. Telling us how important they are to you and how much you care about them and how you would die for them is TOO MUCH.
We are not stupid. And naturally, we get that you are bound to care for your family. That's the God-assigned job for you as a man. But if you bring the "importance" of your family in every conversation you have with your woman, all you're doing is making her feel that she's not a part of it. Like she's an outsider looking in. Like she doesn't fit in in your life. She'll feel unimportant to the person she holds dear in her heart.
Those are not the feelings you want to drag "the person you love" through. They are brutal and corrosive and damaging to a woman's self-esteem. We want to know that we too, are important to you and that you would die for us. We need to feel so. Forget gender equality, we are a jealous species and if you make us feel like we're competing with someone, it will get ugly. Even if it's your mother. Especially your mother. Let alone your pretty cousins.
For a while I thought it would get better. But it didn't. Then I realised, the best way was the way out. So I walked. And felt better about myself and self-esteem sky-rocketted. It's simple really, women also have families. Some of us are the bread-winners. And we love ours just as you do yours. But we do not find it necessary to throw it in your face at any given moment. Because we want you as our men to know that we need you just as much in our lives. If not more.
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