Say Hello To Goodbye

Please lie to me. Lie and say you've never had to let go of something or better yet someone you'd rather keep with you. If going down that lane you find yourself hitting the brakes every now and then because it still takes away a part of you within, oh well, then cry me a river.

Sometimes you do wrong and you lose someone who means a lot and there's no way of getting them back, you know you have scarred them for life, and you have no one else to blame but you, the only thing left to do is watch them go. Your presence may serve as a reminder of the pain you caused them. And as for you, well, you are in pain too. But it's your fault. So deal with it.

At other times you're a victim and find yourself at the wrong side of a love song. You think you've got it all figured out. Only to be left in the midst of confusion trying to find your way out of a tangled web of a messy love affair. If you leave someone in that situation, here's something you gotta do. Same way you said hello, go and say goodbye.

You don't just pack up and leave without a word. Pelo ea motho ha se 'mantloane for God's sake! When you do that, you only harden the process of letting go for the other person. Sit them down, tell them the truth because lies can only make it worse. Leaving without a word, you leave them with not only the burden of a heavy heart over losing you but also the back-breaking work of finding why you left. You want them to leave you alone, fine, tell them the truth.

It's happened to me more times than I can count and frankly, I don't care to remember. Both ways actually. I left some without a word and one left me without a word. That sucks. But being where I am today, I can assure the victims out there that it's going to hurt...there are times when you'll feel like it's going to take forever, especially if you want it to go away overnight. But eventually, you're going to be fine. Trust me. One day you'll wake up, and it won't be as hard. Hell, you'll even laugh it off.

There's no need to keep hoping they'll be back. The best you can do for yourself is do your best to move on because trust me, they ain't thinking of you and they probably moved on even before officially leaving you. You just weren't in the know.

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Ink On Skin

In my opinion, tattoos are an aphrodisiac...like oyster is rumored to be. Oh well, #rollseyes, I wouldn't know. They simply turn me on. Tattoos tattoos tattoos! It looks like everybody out there is getting one, or two. Or three. Ok, let's make that A LOT of tattoos.

So apparently every tattoo is not just ink. It carries a certain meaning. And ignorant people out there are bound to be judged by their ink simply because they don't know it's meaning. Oh yes I do have a tattoo. A galaxy of 15cm in length. I don't know how people interpret star tats out there and frankly it doesn't matter. I know what it means to me. Hint: my daughter's name is Naleli.

I've been given all sorts of stares since I got it. Some impressed, some curious, some absolutely judgey! And I wonder, what gives anyone any right to judge anybody in this "flawless" world? Please! So as is my habit, I interviewed you my friends. And let's see what you think about tattoos.

Reatile*
"Lol...I love them. They represent the beauty of art. And yes I'd get one."

Lindiwe*
"Scared of they. They are forever. And I'm at a stage where I'm scared of the word forever."

Ron*
"I don't mind them so long as they don't portray evil or wrongdoing, perfectly fine."

Nthaby*
"I don't mind tattoos as long as they aren't all over the body. They are scary when they are like that."

Sammy*
"I love them madly and I would get one"

Ben*
"Tattoos are not ayoba. They are for life. And more, they are a means of communication. There's more to them than what meets the eye. They are more of a personal choice of statement."

Kealeboha*
"I don't like them. I'm a Mosotho sweetie. They call for attention. Like "hey! Look at me!"

Kelumetse*
"There was a time I wanted one but couldn't choose. It's too permanent for me but I understand anyone who has one. And I dated someone who has tattoos and was obsessed with them."

Thandie*
"I love them and I want one. But I also think they are Illuminati.

Lineo*
"I looooove tattoos. They are a form of expression and I want four of them!"

Anna*
"My only problem is that they are permanent. Even though I don't think I'd get one, I'd date a guy who has them. It's his body. Not mine."

Lintle*
"I don't have a problem with them. They are good if you get them done properly. Not too many of them though. One or two."

Rethabile*
"I love them! I have tattoos. Lots of them!"

Zandile*
"I like them and I'd get one but hide it from my parents because like most people, they think they are satanic."

Deezy*
"I love them. I want three butterflies for my mom, my dad and my son."

Sam*
"I love them and I'm going to get one. But one with meaning. Something about my mom."

Bongani*
"I really don't find them attractive and I see them as too much commitment since I haven't heard of an easy way to remove them should one fall out of love with them."

Mohale*
"I'm not into them. My woman has one but I have no problem with that."

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At One Point in Your Life

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Game Of Hearts

"No I can't." She said as she advanced a step away from him. How she moved puzzled her because she new she wanted to stay. She felt her heart beat with the strength of thunder. She was shaking. And she felt compelled to move back towards him. Guided by an invisible vicious force. There was no turning back now...she was bound to him. And 'him'.

She had no idea how tangled the web she was weaving was, until that moment. And only then did she realise its superiority complex. But it was too late. It wasn't harmless fun anymore. And she was forced to choose between the two men...and the one she was in the presence of now, was not the one she wanted to love.

Frankly, even though she'd always known he wanted more than just fun, what hit her as a surprise was she was falling for him. What about her boyfriend? She loved him as much but we all know that the new love cuts deep, no matter how tight the old love has you bound.

As she walked towards him, she said no word, she buried her head in his chest and he held her as she felt her heart open up to new possibilities. Then she looked up at him with terrified eyes...and to her surprise, he was laughing...then he said,

"It's just a game"







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Discipline From God's Point of View _ Pastor Wilson

-Start living a live that has Jesus in the centre so it doesn't spiral out of control.
-Bring discipline into your life. Undisciplined life results in failure.
-Be focused and keep going regardless of the hurdles you encounter.

1 Corinthians 9:24-27

-winning comes from preparation.
-preparation and discipline are not pretty, they are messy because you yearn to do something else more appealing.
-you'll only do as great as your time of preparation.
-your lack of discipline will manifest itself in your failure.
-conquer your instinct to opt for shortcuts.
-lack of discipline results in ineffectiveness.
-discipline matters more than speed.

*tale of the rabbit and the turtle

-to win, compete against yourself because you're striving towards your own goals.


Matthew 7:24-27

-be ready for hard times.
-be prepared for stormy seasons.

-Instill yourself to observing what God said and make time to do it.

Proverbs 23:6-8

Matthew 6:19-24

-you can not serve God and money/two masters at the same time.
-when you're generous, you receive more.
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Land Of The Flawless...

love is not complicated. but if you start looking at all the small things that dont really matter, you provide a foundation for complication. let your partner be who they are and if you can not accept the things that matter to them, why are you in their lives?

if to give them something you know they really want you have to ask them for something in return, thats not love. you simply want to mould them into your own selfish version of what you think someone to love should be.e.g, "baby i'll introduce you to my mom if you lose weight." seriously?

i spent a lot of time with one friend not long ago and as we had our girl talk (call it gossip if you may), we notised that most men are down right scared of commitment. and even when they are blessed with women who are independent and clear about what they want, these men still find something to "change" about these women.

In the meanwhile, we as women, are quick to learn to accept all the flaws our men come with. we don't go around asking you to change certain things and trust me, that does not mean you are perfect. and no matter how hard you try to sugar-coat that speech, we dont like to know that you think we are imperfect and are not happy about it.

We chose to be with you among all the men out there. it was a choice. a decision of our own so don't ever make it look like you're doing us some sort of a favour. Respect us. And always know that you are not the only one who wants us. You gotta work to get us and to keep us as well...

As for you women...#smh
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