love is not complicated. but if you start looking at all the small things that dont really matter, you provide a foundation for complication. let your partner be who they are and if you can not accept the things that matter to them, why are you in their lives?
if to give them something you know they really want you have to ask them for something in return, thats not love. you simply want to mould them into your own selfish version of what you think someone to love should be.e.g, "baby i'll introduce you to my mom if you lose weight." seriously?
i spent a lot of time with one friend not long ago and as we had our girl talk (call it gossip if you may), we notised that most men are down right scared of commitment. and even when they are blessed with women who are independent and clear about what they want, these men still find something to "change" about these women.
In the meanwhile, we as women, are quick to learn to accept all the flaws our men come with. we don't go around asking you to change certain things and trust me, that does not mean you are perfect. and no matter how hard you try to sugar-coat that speech, we dont like to know that you think we are imperfect and are not happy about it.
We chose to be with you among all the men out there. it was a choice. a decision of our own so don't ever make it look like you're doing us some sort of a favour. Respect us. And always know that you are not the only one who wants us. You gotta work to get us and to keep us as well...
As for you women...#smh
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